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Friendship is Ageless – A Story of Companionship

“You will always have unfinished tasks in your inbox. Don’t wait for it to be empty to start enjoying the people around you or the simple moments of life.”

These words, shared at my father’s funeral in 2014, still help me maintain perspective about what’s important. They helped forge one of the most significant relationships of my life, a friendship with my neighbor, World War II veteran William “Bill” Noday.

The Beginning of a Beautiful Friendship

I first met Bill when my family and I moved to our street in 2010. He was always very friendly and we would exchange pleasantries, but it took a few years for our friendship to grow. Although we had a 53-year age difference, Bill became one of my best friends and a partner in crime.

For nearly a decade, we bonded over shared interests in classic cars, wine and Jeopardy. I learned that Bill came from a huge family with eight brothers and sisters, but never married or had children of his own. I thought about him often when we’d have family events and get togethers, wondering if he’d enjoy spending time with my family as he spent much of his time alone. I invited him to a Friday night dinner, and he quickly became a fixture in our family and at holiday events.

He’d tell stories about his childhood and loving family, WWII and his thirty years of military service, and how happy he was to make memories with my family.

He had a way of making everyone feel special and was someone everyone wanted to be around. Bill was by my side sharing advice and companionship through many life obstacles, including four hurricanes.

Overflowing Inbox

As our friendship grew, so did my professional responsibilities. At one point, my schedule was all over the place. I found myself working late, leaving little time to spend with my family and friends. Bill kept asking me to come over for a glass of wine, but there was always something that stood in the way.

One day, I recalled the words from my father’s funeral, and I told Bill I was coming over to visit. When I walked into his house that evening, his table was set with two glasses, a bottle of wine and snacks. The excitement to catch up was clear and I remember feeling badly because I’d let my ever-full inbox control me, losing precious time with him.

I promised myself that I wouldn’t let my responsibilities keep me from spending time with him again. I’d prioritize this time together and make memories that counted.

Finding Perspective

Over the next few years, we had lots of fun, celebrating all kinds of events. From birthdays to holidays and lots of neighborhood dinners in between, it was a special time.

Last November, Bill had a fall that led to a series of health complications with hospital and rehabilitation center stays. His friends and family visited often, keeping him company and showing just how special he was to so many.

We didn’t know it then, but our time with Bill was limited. He passed away in September of 2023. His passing was heartbreaking, but his legacy is legendary. He taught me so much about life and I’ll always be grateful for his friendship. 

Building Relationships this Holiday Season

In this season of giving and gathering, it’s likely some may not have people to spend the holidays with. Use this opportunity to reach out to those around you. Whether it’s a friend, neighbor, colleague or family member, a message can help build your relationship as you keep connected, no matter the distance.

In addition, if you’re looking to build some new relationships, consider these options:

No matter how you spend the holiday season, remember that we don’t know how many memories we’re guaranteed to make. Don't wait for your inbox to be empty to enjoy life or appreciate the people around you.

 

Every year, Elizabeth would take Bill to his favorite restaurant to celebrate his birthday, and they would share a message on their marquis.

 

Written by: Elizabeth Counsman

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